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Dastaar for Women Dastaar (turban) is a very important part of Sikh religion. To Sikhs it is more than what is a crown to a king or queen. Sikh Gurus showed a great respect to turban. But some people think it is only for men and women are not required to wear it. This article will explain why Sikh women should wear Dastaar (turban). First I will quote from Guru Granth Sahib. Guru Ji says "Saabat Soorat Dastaar Sira" means "Let your total awareness be the turban on your head" (Page 1084). This clearly states that a Sikh is instructed to live a natural life and have unshorn hair and to protect and keep those hair clean he/she must wear a Dastaar on his/her head. This line does not make an exception to women. Sikh Gurus gave women the equal rights. Both men and women are given the same message which means the above line implies to both not only to men. If we are Sikhs of Guru Granth Sahib Ji then we must wear Dastaar doesn't matter if you are male or female. Guru Gobind Singh Ji and Rehtname make very clear points about women wearing Dastaar. Guru Gobind Singh Ji said "Jab Lab Khalsa Rahe Niara, Tab Lag Tej Diyoon Mein Saara" which means "As long as Khalsa preserves its uniqueness and follows the path of true Guru I will bless them with all of my powers." This clearly shows that Khalsa must have its uniqueness which means to have that uniqueness one must have a Dastaar on his/her head. Furthermore, when Bhai Jait Mal Ji presented the head of Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji to Guru Gobind Singh Ji, Guru Ji said "I will give my Sikh a distinct and unique appearance which will allow him to be recognized while standing in millions". This uniqueness comes from following the path of Sikhi which is to have unshorn hair and wearing Dastaar on the head. One can easily recognize a Sikh by looking at his appearance and most of that does come from Dastaar. Guru Ji did not say that he would give uniqueness only to men. When Guru Ji said "Khalsa" he meant men and women both. Men and women both are Khalsa. Guru Ji gave the same Rehat Maryada, same uniqueness, same message, same symbols, same religious Bana (dress) and same rights then how are women excluded from wearing Dastaar. Guru Ji made no distinction and referred to men and women as Khalsa and instructed them to wear Dastaar. In above line the word "Niara" clearly means different from others and it does mean wearing Dastaar. It doesn't say only men have to be "Niara". Furthermore, Guru Gobind Singh Ji said "Khalsa Mero Roop Hai Khaas" which means "Khalsa is my own self image." Again, Khalsa means men and women both. Guru Ji did not make two different Sikhs or Khalsa. He made one Sikh and there can only be one type or kind of Sikh. There is only one Khalsa. Women make different hair styles, color their hair, and tie them in the back which is prohibited. Those women are nowhere near Guru Gobind Singh Ji's image. Guru Ji always wore Dastaar. Not only Guru Gobind Singh Ji but all of the other nine Gurus practiced wearing Dastaar. So how are women who dye their hair "Roop" (image) of Guru Gobind Singh Ji? They are not. Guru Ji had one image not two. Guru Ji had unshorn hair and wore Dastaar. Women without Dastaar do not even come close to that image. When those women look in the mirror, do they see Guru Gobind Singh Ji? I don't think so. Dastaar is a sign of dignity. Men still have their dignity but where is women's dignity? They have lost it in fashion. Not many Sikh women wear Dastaar but their numbers are growing. Even white Sikhs men and women wear Dastaar. Women must wear turban as instructed by Guru Ji himself because that's what makes them unique and an image of Guru Ji.
Right
up to the reign of Maharaja Ranjit Singh, Sikh women had been steadfast in
following the edicts of the Satguru in respect to their spiritual inner life as
well as dress, including Dastaar. That is what J. D. Cunningham himself saw and
wrote in the middle of the Nineteenth Century when he wrote his book, History of
the Sikhs. He writes: "The Sikh women are distinguished from Hindus of
their sex by some variety of dress but chiefly by a higher top knot of
hair." Many famous Rehatname also support wearing of Dastaar. Here are some quotes: "Each candidate for Baptism be made to wear kachhehra, tie hair in a topknot and cover the same with Dastaar; wear Sri Sahib (Kirpan) in Gaatra (shoulder belt). Then he/she should stand with folded hands." (Rahitnama Bhai Daya Singh Ji)"Women should tie their hair in topknot and should not keep them loose." (Rahitnama Bhai Daya Singh Ji)
It is thus, absolutely
clear from the above quotations that remaining bareheaded at any time (except
when washing, drying, and combing) and keeping hair loose and unknotted are
basically against the Sikh Code of Conduct, which is applicable to all, men and
women alike. For obvious reasons, therefore, the use of Dastaar is
indispensable. There is no other way to keep the head covered all the time.
Sikhs women who wear only dupattas, mostly remain bareheaded, at least in the
privacy of their own homes, while taking food, etc., and thus are, perhaps
unconsciously, infringing the Sikh Code of Conduct in this respect. A FEW HISTORICAL AND OTHER FACTS IN THIS RESPECT:
1.
Well-known Sikh historian Bhai Sahib Bhai Santokh Singh has given a somewhat
detailed description concerning Mai Bhaag Kaur (commonly known as Mai Bhago) of
Forty Muktas fame in his well known historical work GUR PARTAP SOORAJ. He
mentions that Mai Bhaag Kaur had reached the highest stage of enlightenment and
had almost lost her body consciousness...so much so that when her clothes became
worn to shreds, she did not care to replace them. Sahib Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji
called her in His Holy presence and instructed her to always stick to the
Gursikh dress as prescribed in the Code of Conduct. In particular, she was
ordered to wear Kachhehra and Dastaar. In fact, according to some chroniclers,
the Dastaar was tied on her head by the Satguru himself. If this Dastaar was not
a part of Sikhi, where was the need to include this item in the instructions
given to a lady who had reached almost the Brahmgyan stage? It apparently shows
that the Satguru gave very high importance to Dastaar.
2.
In the Museum of Maharaja Ranjit Singh's fort at Lahore and Victoria Museum at
Calcutta, the pictures of Sikh women of old time can be seen even now, depicting
them with Dastaar.
3.
Bhai Sahib Veer Singh, in his well known poetical work, RANA SURAT SINGH,
depicts Rani Raj Kaur as a Saint Soldier or Rajyogi of the highest order. Her
very impressive picture given in the book depicts her with a well-tied Dastaar,
on which is also affixed a khanda-chakkar, the emblem of Sikhism. In another of
his book "Mata Satwant Kaur" Satwant Kaur is shown as wearing Khalsa
dress including Dastaar.
4.
The
Sikh women belonging to the Jatha of Bhai Sahib (Sant) Teja Singh Ji of Mastuana,
have been seen doing Kirtan in congregations wearing Dastaar. He was
instrumental in establishing Akaal Academy - a Higher Secondary School at Baru
in Himachal Pradesh wherein all students - boys as well as girls - are required
to wear Dastaar as a prescribed school uniform.
6.
Jathedar of Damdami Taksaal Baba Gurbachan Singh Ji Khalsa Bhindranwale's whole
family, including his wife, two sons and their wives practiced wearing Dastaar.
7.
It
is a historical fact that there was a time when a price was put on the head of a
male Sikh. Greedy and unprincipled people, both Hindus and Muslims, availed of
this opportunity to make money. When they could no longer find male Sikhs in the
villages and towns, they started beheading Khalsa women and presenting their
heads as the heads of young unbearded teenager Sikh lads. Even in those dark
times Sikh women did not stop wearing Dastaar. It was only because of fashion
and their misunderstanding of Sikh faith that they stopped wearing Dastaar and
started piercing nose and ears.
8.
S.
Shamsher Singh Ashok who has been an active member of the Singh Sabha movement
and an erstwhile Research Scholar of the S.G.P.C., while discussing the
prevalence of the use of 'Dastaar', states: "...and, consequently in the
Amrit-Parchaar at the Akaal Takhat Sahib, this was a precondition even for
ladies before they could be baptized there. Any woman who was not prepared to
wear Dastaar was not baptized. This practice continued even after the end of the
Gurudwara movement. Relaxation was made only when Giani Gurmukh Singh Musafar
became the Jathedar of the Akaal Takhat."
The
wearing of Dastaar enables Sikh women to show their distinctiveness of being
Sikh or Khalsa like men. The importance of this Khalsa distinctiveness has been
clearly emphasized by the Tenth Guru for the Khalsa as a community, both men and
women, and not for men only.
In view of all the aforesaid, it is clear that Dastaar has been traditionally
worn by Sikhs, or Khalsa men and women, right from the birth of the Khalsa
Nation. This practice has been enunciated and strongly emphasized by the Satguru
himself. Akhand Kirtani Jatha, white Sikhs and a few other individuals and
organizations are preserving this dignified Khalsa tradition with Guru's grace.
Having become aware of these facts, the Sikh intelligentsia has also started
showing a remarkable response in this regard. If the Khalsa is to live in
accordance with the Rules of true Gurmat , both Khalsa men and women have to
accept it. Dastaar is the crown bestowed by the Satguru for the head of the
Khalsa, whether man or woman, who stands bestowed with the special form of the
Satguru himself. By refraining from the use of Dastaar, a Sikh becomes a
follower of his own ego instead of the Will of the Satguru. Wearing of Dastaar
by Sikh women is decried mainly because modern day Sikhs want their women to
fall in line with other women with respect to the so called modern way of life,
including the modern fashions of dress. Sikhs - both men and women - will
continue to be guilty of showing disrespect to the sacred hair by keeping them
uncovered. In fact, it is the Dastaar's non-acceptance (and not its acceptance)
that is very unconsciously eviscerating the Rehtname of their "tremendous
and literally unlimited potency that operates on the collective subconscious
level" of the Sikhs in general. One fails to understand how the use of
Dastaar "...destroys the purity of the Khalsa and sabotages the unity of
the Khalsa", as alleged by some. In fact, the shoe is on the other foot. If
Dastaar is accepted by all Khalsa men and women, it will help in maintaining the
purity and ensuring the unity of the Khalsa, as even women of the Khalsa faith,
like the Khalsa men, will be distinguishable.
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